Happiness is the only true measure of personal success. Making other
people happy is the highest expression of success, but it's almost
impossible to make others happy if you're not happy yourself.
With
that in mind, here are nine small changes that you can make to your
daily routine that, if you're like most people, will immediately
increase the amount of happiness in your life:
1. Start
each day with expectation.
If there's any big truth
about life, it's that it usually lives up to (or down to) your
expectations. Therefore, when you rise from bed, make your first
thought: "something wonderful is going to happen today." Guess what?
You're probably right.
2. Take time to plan and
prioritize.
The most common source of stress is
the perception that you've got too much work to do. Rather than obsess
about it, pick one thing that, if you get it done today, will move you
closer to your highest goal and purpose in life. Then do that first.
3.
Give a gift to everyone you meet.
I'm not talking about
a formal, wrapped-up present. Your gift can be your smile, a word of
thanks or encouragement, a gesture of politeness, even a friendly nod.
And never pass beggars without leaving them something. Peace of mind is
worth the spare change.
4. Deflect partisan
conversations.
Arguments about politics and religion
never have a "right" answer but they definitely get people all riled up
over things they can't control. When such topics surface, bow out by
saying something like: "Thinking about that stuff makes my head hurt."
5.
Assume people have good intentions.
Since you can't
read minds, you don't really know the "why" behind the "what" that
people do. Imputing evil motives to other people's weird behaviors adds
extra misery to life, while assuming good intentions leaves you open to
reconciliation.
6. Eat high quality food slowly.
Sometimes
we can't avoid scarfing something quick to keep us up and running. Even
so, at least once a day try to eat something really delicious, like a
small chunk of fine cheese or an imported chocolate. Focus on it; taste
it; savor it.
7. Let go of your results.
The
big enemy of happiness is worry, which comes from focusing on events
that are outside your control. Once you've taken action, there's usually
nothing more you can do. Focus on the job at hand rather than some
weird fantasy of what might happen.
8. Turn off
"background" TV.
Many households leave their TVs on as
"background noise" while they're doing other things. The entire point of
broadcast TV is to make you dissatisfied with your life so that you'll
buy more stuff. Why subliminally program yourself to be a mindless
consumer?
9. End each day with gratitude.
Just
before you go to bed, write down at least one wonderful thing that
happened. It might be something as small as a making a child laugh or
something as huge as a million dollar deal. Whatever it is, be grateful
for that day because it will never come again.
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